Comments on: Workaholism and Mommying. http://mymommyand.me/2009/06/15/workaholism-and-mommying/ My Journey into Mommyhood and Beyond Thu, 29 Dec 2011 18:17:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Henry Elliss http://mymommyand.me/2009/06/15/workaholism-and-mommying/#comment-42 Henry Elliss Fri, 17 Jul 2009 20:51:12 +0000 http://mymommyand.me/?p=69#comment-42 Blimmin' heck - Canadian mothers get 12 months full pay?! Find me my passport, I'm moving! Blimmin’ heck – Canadian mothers get 12 months full pay?! Find me my passport, I’m moving!

]]> By: Anna Bourland http://mymommyand.me/2009/06/15/workaholism-and-mommying/#comment-19 Anna Bourland Tue, 16 Jun 2009 18:33:20 +0000 http://mymommyand.me/?p=69#comment-19 Tamar, it sounds like you are right where every new mom should be: figuring out how priorities fit into your own life. No one can define your priorities for you, nor should they try. Whether they say, "you shouldn't work so much - you have a new baby" or they say, "don't babies just sleep all day? Do my project!" they are not you and cannot define your new role for you. You will definitely find you are a mommy first, but that does not mean work will not hold the same importance. For example, when my kids are sick, my desire is to just stay home with them, and cuddle and make them better; not caring about who needs what elsewhere. But I don't do that; I cannot do that. I find a way to get to work if at all possible. I make arrangements for my children to be cared for while sick, while I go to work. We have to have 2 incomes, and I am not ashamed of it. I think having a good work ethic is commendable. I also think it's normal to interact via technology during and after important moments in ones life. It is a great way to flesh out emotions, and a great way to let others who care about you know what is happening in your life, and even be there in spirit. Now "in spirit" is more like in technology. I say you rock, and don't let any haters get you down! ;) Tamar, it sounds like you are right where every new mom should be: figuring out how priorities fit into your own life. No one can define your priorities for you, nor should they try. Whether they say, “you shouldn’t work so much – you have a new baby” or they say, “don’t babies just sleep all day? Do my project!” they are not you and cannot define your new role for you. You will definitely find you are a mommy first, but that does not mean work will not hold the same importance. For example, when my kids are sick, my desire is to just stay home with them, and cuddle and make them better; not caring about who needs what elsewhere. But I don’t do that; I cannot do that. I find a way to get to work if at all possible. I make arrangements for my children to be cared for while sick, while I go to work. We have to have 2 incomes, and I am not ashamed of it.

I think having a good work ethic is commendable. I also think it’s normal to interact via technology during and after important moments in ones life. It is a great way to flesh out emotions, and a great way to let others who care about you know what is happening in your life, and even be there in spirit. Now “in spirit” is more like in technology.

I say you rock, and don’t let any haters get you down! ;)

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